A Man is built by the words He says! Standing on His actions!

I has always taught my boys that a Man is define by the things one does and not necessary skills are needed all the time. Only will and drive can define the depths of a Mans soul and the things he will do when the time calls for it. It starts be being a provider of the daily necessities, giving respect and expecting it back being able love and  to move one self into compassion which is a God attribute and having faith over all. My son Juan Carlos never forgets the time that I went to Jersey and notice that his Moms apartment bathroom was not up to par, the tub was rusted walls looked grimy and the Landlord will do nothing about it. So I took Him to the local Hardware store and got some stain killer, paint, compound and a few tools for the project we had ahead of us. Back in the apartment we did our thing and at  it came out nice and I remember that as soon it dry up J.C took  a long bath and I never forget his face when he came out of it, and  there  I told him see the deferens a Man makes when he sets his mind to something and accomplish it and he said "Pa your da Man"  . and  made me realize that the lesson was for both of us that day the Man in the making and the Man in the shaping .

My son Santiago in Puerto Rico also recalls the time I went over there for vacations and he had left is Pit bull Princes in Yauco with his  brother at his step fathers house, cause they did not hade space for such animal at his house in Cayey. I remember the first time I laid eyes on that dog it was love at first sight and the untamable 85lbs Pit Bull was strike by the resemblance my son and I have and she just looked at both of us and was double happy. But a year had past by since the last time I saw her and Aim telling my son lets go see  Princes before we do anything else. We drive out to Yauco 45 minutes away and we take the panoramic route,sight seeing and a few stops at the 'bodegas" for a cold one 'una fria" and by time I  knew we were right there at his Moms house. We parked the car and I started to call the dog by her name but she did not answer as  I   walk to the porch I can see a chain-link rope tied to a column of the  house and at the other end there was a dog whom resemble the shadow of a dog I know before and my eyes cant believe that is my Princess weighting 50lbs at the most and looking like she just had a thousand puppies her tits were hanging like gravity was under rated. That dogs eyes look into to my soul and ask me for help and all I can do at the moment is to assure her that things will about to change right there and then, I gentle touched her head with both hands and looked her in the eyes and said " I am leaving but  I am coming back and we going to change your situation and she just stare at me like saying 'I believe you ' so we seeped up the supermarket and grabbed  a bag of dog food a few cans of Alpo and head back to feed Princess. Once back there I opened a can of Alpo put it her plate and watched her like it clean in time record, slow down baby I said  as we gave her some dry food, and all this time nobody showed up to even to say hi. After a few hours hanging out with the dog and asking the neighbors if they had notice the neglect the dog been thru, but in Puerto Rico sometime is like talking to the wall. We took the Highway back to Cayey and on the way we having the conversation about how this people neglected the dog and the whole nine yards that's is when my son said "Thanks Pa for being there You made the deferens" and that is what I want them to take from me.

What title one as a Man is others and not ourselves, we can build our self with words but they most be founded on Our actions. Being the Son the Brother, that Uncle and that Friend only shapes  us up to be a good neighbor, fella man and a great Human Being the way God sees us like Men.